Reality #3 .... Revenge is but a fantasy...

Reality #3 ...revenge is a fantasy, that should never cross into reality.

We have all had that delicious thought after another person in our life has treated us unjustly (or just down right horribly), and we think about taking action so that we can watch as they endure the pain they have caused in our lives. This thought usually occurs as we sit (usually with a friend or two, and most likely a little alcohol) pouring out our hearts to what the offending party has done to us, and it is at this moment someone comes up with an amusing revenge plot that gets us laughing. This revenge plot also usually resembles something we have seen in a movie but remember Reality #2, this is not Hollywood.

Revenge will not get you what you want. It will make things worse for you and better for them. It always does. However ....for revenge to work in your favor and if you absolutely, must, must, must get revenge I suggest the following course of action...

First treat yourself well.... work out, get your hair done, ladies wear make up, new clothes, whatever you need to look fantastic and feel amazing ... The offending party will not understand how you can look so great going through such stress when they are miserable. They don't need to know that you are stressed out, only your friends get to know that.

Second, adjust your anger attitude. This statement is way easier said than done (and I have a hard time with it too) However, showing anger shows the other person that they are getting to you. Be sweet as pie ... and buy a heavy bag to punch if necessary. I have been told not to be angry at my ex ... ummm yeah, I can do that only if heavily medicated, I am angry with all the stupidity and foolishness that has been endured. However, to their face I am sweet as can be, they never gets to see me in any other state other than nice. Then I go home and use the punching bag ... a lot...

The best revenge you can get ... is to be successful with your moving forward in your fabulous new life. This unravelling is temporarily in your present, and your ex is in your past ... they don't get to affect your future. This is a new beginning and you get to decide its course ...enjoy the journey ...
C.